Who reads the eulogy at a funeral?

Over the years, I have heard a lot of people say their pet peeve is a celebrant getting up and talking about the person who died, as if they knew them better than anyone in the room.

For some families they don’t want me sharing their person’s story.  They want to share it themselves.

Likewise, there are other families who feel they don’t have the skills or energy to create a story, about the life of their loved one.  
Then, it is my job to write and deliver a story, using the memories they have shared with me. 
However, I always make it very clear that I didn’t know that person, but their family has helped me learn more about them. 

And there are other families who are happy for me to write their story but they want to deliver it themselves

Whatever way a family decide their loved one’s story should be told, my role is always bring all of my years experience to help create a meaningful ceremony and offering gentle guidance and support.  

Often my role, is very much in the background especially in family lead gatherings.     

There is no room for ego in this job.

It would never ever my intention to be the focus of attention or doing something that a family is not comfortable with.