End of Life conversations are tough conversations to start.

We tend to avoid them because we don't want to cause upset, often we don't want to face reality and they may bring up uncomfortable emotions.

Anne supported her partner Greg through his cancer diagnosis and his treatment. But following a terminal diagnosis, they had to learn how to live in the face of death.

Throughout their life together, Anne and Greg discussed everything, so it seemed only natural that following Greg's terminal diagnosis that their discussions included his end of life care. They also spent time planning his funeral and how he want his life to be celebrated and remembered.

For Anne and Greg there was nothing left unsaid. They spent time together making practical preparations for Greg's death.

What a gift this has been for Anne. She felt confident that every decision she made, was exactly as Greg wanted it.

When someone dies the shock and grief can make decision making more difficult. But conversations prior to death, can be an act of love and help soften some of the anguish for those left behind

This is Anne & Greg's story.

In this episode of the podcast, I have a chat to Katie Anne from a charity called Jacinta’s Smile is passionate about helping those suffering the loss of a sibling for bereaved children and young adults.

Katie Anne knows too well the grief when a sibling dies. In an extraordinary set of circumstances, she has experienced it 3 times with the death of her brother Declan when she was a child, and her sister Jacinta and her brother Fintan when she was an adult.

Sibling grief is a forever process and there are so many different parts of your life that it touches.

Siblings are people that you grow up with. They are a part of your life from the beginning. You don’t remember life without them and there is an expectation they will always be there in the future

When a sibling dies, those bonds are shattered and that shared history has a void that cannot be filled.

This episode of Deadly Serious Conversations is on the topic of Voluntary Assisted Dying.

" Voluntary Assisted Dying" is the term given in Australia, referring to the assistance given by a health practitioner to a person to end their life.

The term “voluntary” assisted dying emphases the voluntary nature, of the choice, of the person and their enduring capacity to make this decision.

Put simply, Voluntary Assisted Dying, means that some adults, can now ask for medical help to end their life, if they have a disease or illness, that is so severe that it is going to cause their death and their suffering cannot be relieved in a manner that is tolerable to them.

Victoria was the first state in Australia to pass legislation allowing Voluntary Assisted Dying to happen.

There is a very specific eligibility criteria for VAD and it is not available to everyone.

In this conversation with Cheryl, we talk about her and her dad Jim’s experience when he availed of the VAD programme earlier this year.

This is Jim’s story and it is definitely worth listening to so we can all learn more about VAD.

In this episode of the podcast, I chat to the lovely Karin from Heavenly Catering. 

Karin has over 20 years experience as a caterer for wakes and celebrations of life. Through her catering company Heavenly Catering, she helps co-ordinates gatherings of any size and in any location, including church halls, private homes, and funeral function centres. Using her experience she has written a beautiful book called “Where there is a will, there is a wake”.   It is a great little resource whether you are preparing for the death of someone close to you or whether you are creating your own funeral and wake plan.  

Karin has written this book to support anyone who is wanting to own their own end of life choices, so that you can go your own way, taking the pressure and stress away from your family and friends and to create funerals and wakes that truly reflect the life you are celebrating. 

I hope this chat gives you some food for thought.  

It has always been my goal for Deadly Serious Conversations, to normalise tough conversations.

October is pregnancy and infant loss awareness month. As a society we don’t like to talk about uncomfortable and difficult things.

This is an area that I really believe we need to become more comfortable.

The discomfort that accompanies stillbirth, leaves many parents feeling alone with their pain.

We all have a responsibility to learn and understand about pregnancy & infant loss. Thankfully, the culture around baby loss is slowly changing but no parent should ever feel that their child is an “uncomfortable” subject.

In reality all of us have the potential to be touched by stillbirth in some way.

Still born births are more common than we think.

1 in 6 babies born in Australia every day are still born. The numbers are staggering. And yet it is still such a taboo topic.

Behind every statistic is a story.

In this episode of the podcast, Bree Amer Wilkes shares her story about her son Archie, who was stillborn.

Bree shares her personal perspective on the loss of a baby and we discuss ways to offer support to anyone impacted by pregnancy and infant loss.

Archie may have been stillborn but he is still loved.

On this episode of the podcast, I have a chat to Belinda Jane from Belinda Jane video. Belinda and her wonderful team, work behind the scenes in creating all the audio and visual tributes to personalise funerals, such as Music, Order of Services, Memorial cards, bookmarks, Reflections of life slideshows and in more recent times, funeral recording and live streaming.

We have a great chat on how funerals have changed and how live streaming has made this challenging time during COVID a little bit easier.

We also talk about music and what families should avoid if they are organizing their own photos slideshows.

Belinda shares so much insight to what goes on behind the scenes, so sit back and enjoy listening to this episode.

On this episode of the podcast, I have a chat with John Slaytor, funeral photographer.   Funeral Photographer is a genre of photographer that we don’t hear talked about a lot.  For some people this concept may seem disrespectful or even morbid. 

But through the course of conversation, John shares with us the concept that his clients felt he “was their eyes when they couldn’t see with grief”. 

We have a lovely conversation about the kindness and compassion that is often seen at funerals and how important these images may be one day in years to come. 

Shots of Fireball, singing Karaoke live music, tears and laugher.

The was Sarah's swan song.

Sarah was only 34 when she died suddenly leaving her family and friends reeling in shock.

She lived life to the full. She love performing, travelling and having a good time.

Her loved ones didn't know where to start in planning her farewell. But what they did know is that a traditional funeral would really upset her.

Sarah's swan song allowed her loved ones to honour her and her love of life in a really authentic way.

In this episode, I have an absolutely wonderful chat with Annie Bolitho.

Annie is the author a beautiful book called "Death a love project".

It is a great resource for anyone who is having to think about decisions about their own death or for someone they love, before they meet with a funeral director.

We also chat about all sorts of things including Death cafes, the use of ritual in ceremony, zoom funerals and we explore how funerals can look different from one family to the next.

Zenith Virago is renowned for leading the way in helping demystifying death, dying and funerals in our society for over 25 years.

She brings a wealth of experience and knowledge which she freely shares in this episode of Deadly Serious Conversations.

Conversations like this one are so important, to inform listeners of some of the choices available to them, prior to and following the death of a loved one.

These choices can help to prepare us for living and dying better.

Today, I chat to the lovely Danielle from an organisation called "Motherless Daughters" about the impact of the death of your mother at any age can have on your life.

Motherless Daughters is a wonderful organisation that helps connect woman and girls whose mother has died.

In this episode of Deadly Serious Conversations, I chat to the lovely Meg Marshall. Meg was diagnosed with Breast Cancer at 28 and since then she has been diagnosed with stage 4 cancer. She has been incredibly busy living ever since.

She has put in place many plans for her love ones for a time when she is not here.

In this episode, Meg shared her honest and open experience of living with a Terminal Diagnosis

In this episode I have a chat with Lucy from Head and Heart Estate Planning. in this episode we chat about the next steps in handling someones estate after they pass away. We also chat about what happens if someone dies without a Will.

In Episode 12 of Deadly Serious Conversations, I have a chat with the lovely Jo Betz. Jo courageously talks to us about learning to live with grief, following the sudden and unexpected death of her husband Craig.

She also shares some insight on how her grief has evolved over time and how she has come to accept that grief will always be a part of her life.

Through her experience, Jo has written a beautiful book called “Grief – a guided journal” to help others express their feelings, following the death of a loved one.

In this episode of the Deadly Serious Conversations podcast, Fiona chats to to Lisa Oshlack from Moving on. 

One of the many services that moving on provides is helping families take care of the daunting task of organising personal belongings after someone has died, 

Lisa offers some great suggestions on how to alleviate the emotional challenge of this task.  

The word “suicide” is a sensitive word and it really conjures up different ideas in everyone’s mind.

This is a tough subject but one that is very important to talk about. Speaking more openly about suicide is something that we need to get better at.

In this episode of the podcast, Fiona chats to Victoria English from Telopea Flowers about the use of flowers in funerals. Victoria shares her expertise on how we can really personalise the ceremony space in a beautiful way using flowers.

For those who own a much loved family pet, you will understand that losing an animal is like losing a much loved family member.  And this can trigger all sorts of painful emotions.